Men, you get advice all the time about how to live, but you are wasting your time unless you take action. You need to look at your life and change it if the advice is going to mean anything.
I want to make it easier for you to take the action you need to take to put your life in order. I have created and listed 21 actions, below, you can take in your life. They are all specific, practical actions that will improve your life.
The 21 actions have been split into 3 sections, each covering a week. The intention is that you focus on one action a day. Below are the first 7 actions, the first week. Links to the remaining two weeks will be below the article.
The more actions you undertake, the more progress you will make.
You may have already incorporated some of these into your life, but I guarantee you haven’t done all of them, I have not. If you think you have completed all of them, please tell me in the comments. Better yet, share one of your own tips.
♦◊♦
Day 1: Create A Vision For Your Life
Why:
So you can have confidence in the direction your life is taking.
What:
- Create a vision board.
- Write a relationship vision.
- Write down how you would like others to see you.
How:
- Vision board: collect magazines, cut out images and phrases that resonate with you, and paste them onto a large sheet of paper. Build an instinctive view of your future.
- Relationship vision: Write how you see yourself with your partner – the energy, how you are together, what you do, what is important – then seal it in an envelope and only open it again when you are in your relationship. You will be amazed.
- Write about yourself from the perspective of other people, how would you like to appear to them.
Right Now:
Go and write about yourself in ten years time. What are you doing and how do you feel.
More Information:
“Great Relationships – Don’t Faint When I Say Men Can Create Them”
♦◊♦
Day 2: Develop Yourself Towards That Vision
Why:
Without this the vision is pointless.
What:
- Go to a personal development seminar.
- Read a book that will help you grow.
- Find a course to take.
How:
- Check out people like Tony Robbins, T Harv Eker or Chris Howard. Swallow your fear, or your judgement, and go, let the ideas come and let the seminar leaders show you want you are not seeing.
- Look at the areas of life that you need to shift and find books that will help you with the journey. There are books for everything. Look at reading one book a month that is specifically designed for your improvement. You can never know it all.
- There are many online courses you can take, check a source like ‘The en*theos Academy’. Remember to budget for these every year.
Right Now:
Go and find a book on your shelves that you have not yet read, that will help you, start reading it right away.
More Information:
♦◊♦
Day 3: Record And Resolve Your Past Life
Why:
Clear out your past conditioning to open the way for your development.
What:
- Look at how your parents influenced you.
- How have your attitudes developed over the years?
- What have been the key points in your life?
How:
- Write down what you needed to be for your father and what you did not need to be for him. Do the same for your mother. Write letters to them on how you have developed under their influence. You should seal these in envelopes and have a ceremony to burn them.
- How positive or negative is your view of life? Look at how you have been influenced by others in developing these.
- Go through each year of your life and write down the key points that influenced you. Decide if that’s how you would have wanted to be.
Right Now:
Get a notebook and start a journal right away. Start by writing your obituary.
More Information:
♦◊♦
Day 4: Look After Your Body
Why:
To live and enjoy a long, productive life.
What:
- Start exercising.
- Review what you eat.
- Check out your health.
How:
- Start gently with walking, loosen up your body, create a habit you can sustain.
- Don’t go on a diet but review the balance of vegetables and junk food, sugar and wheat in your diet. How could you improve it. Learn more about nutrition.
- Get a regular check up with your doctor. Don’t let things like cancer or heart disease creep up on you unawares.
Right Now:
Go out for a walk, today, and think about how it makes you feel.
More Information:
“The Meditation Diet: How I Lost 60+ lbs. by Savoring”
♦◊♦
Day 5: Look After Your Mind And Soul
Why:
To create inner peace and support your physical improvements.
What:
- Start meditating.
- Look at what your soul purpose is.
- Arrange specific times for yourself in your schedule.
How:
- Start by just sitting quietly for 10 minutes a day. Let your mind be itself, don’t try to control it. When you have done this for a complete month investigate how you can develop it.
- Why did you choose to be born when you were and to your family? Write this down in your journal.
- You should set aside times just for yourself to relax and be with yourself. Arrange a method of identifying these times to your family, so they respect them.
Right Now:
After reading this stop and just be silent.
More Information:
Meditation: The Most Fundamental Habit
♦◊♦
Day 6: Do What You Want To Do
Why:
So you live your life and others see that you do.
What:
- Decide how you want to live your life.
- Set your boundaries.
- Communicate what you are doing to others.
How:
- Do you want to live for your work or do you want to create a lifestyle that allows your work to take its place. What is most important in your life?
- In order to live the lifestyle that you want, what boundaries do you need to set. What will you not accept in your life? Where will you draw a line in the sand?
- Talk to your intimate partner, your family, your business partners and your friends about how your life interacts with them. gently guide them to understand how you live your life and how you would like them to be involved in your life.
Right Now:
What is the one thing you want to do that you have never started? Plan to put it into action right away.
More Information:
“Walls Are Ambiguous, Two-Faced – Just Like The Boundaries We Set”
♦◊♦
Day 7: Clear Out Your Stuff
Why:
Release the blocks and tensions in your life, free yourself for an amazing future.
What:
- Release your attachment to things in your life.
- Plan to clear out your debt.
- Look at the triggers that cause you to gather stuff around you.
How:
- It’s not that you have to clear everything out, just let go of your attachments. Keep the things you need but bring freedom to your life by lifting the weight of your past staring at you.
- We hang on to debt out of an idea that it allows us to do more. Understand the reality is the opposite. Find and get involved in a debt destruction program.
- Look at the emotional triggers that encourage you to go shopping and buy stuff. Work on releasing them.
Right Now:
Put some stuff you do not use into a box, seal it and put it away. Write the date on the top. If you have not opened it in six months throw or give it away.
More Information:
“Finally Freeing Your Life From Stuff”
♦◊♦
The key to making many of the actions above work for you is consistency. Many of them need to become habit before you’ll experience maximum benefits, but taking the recommended actions above will get you started.
You don’t have to do everything on this list, just pick the ones that you think will work best for you.
Try something above and let me know how it works for you.
Other Posts in the series '21 Days To Become A Man'
- 21 Days To Become A Man - Week 2 - Purpose And Relationships
- 21 Days To Become A Man - Week 3 - Leadership And Presence
[...] is the third and last week of the 21 day exercise in becoming a man. After vision and clarity, and purpose and relationships, we finish on leadership and [...]
[...] is the third and last week of the 21 day exercise in becoming a man. After vision and clarity, and purpose and relationships, we finish on leadership and [...]
[...] week your actions around becoming a man were focused on vision and clarity. This week we move on to purpose and [...]