10 Powerful Blogs For Men To Learn and Grow By

I constantly keep an eye out for other men blogging for men. I don’t often see anything that’s helpful or useful.

I realised that if I have problems finding good sites then I am sure men looking for help will almost find it impossible to find them.

Googling just brings up all the websites for men that skirt round any serious issues or focus on a narrow political point. The problem is that there are so many websites for men that it’s almost impossible to work out what’s useful.

I’ve complained before that what you find is either single issue sites, christian, gay, black, dating, MRA, feminist … commercial sites selling toys, watches, leather bags … or style sites for clothing, shaving …

I started by wanting compile a list of 20 blogs, but I just couldn’t find them. So I opened out my view and realised that men are far more interested in life in general not just men’s issues.

I have, therefore compiled a list of 10 powerful blogs for men that look at all aspects of a man’s life. Ultimately the core issue in these sites is that they provide learning and growth for men.

Men read them , regularly, and feel their power.

William Harryman is a friend of mine who I respect enormously. He writes a great deal about Integral Theory and Buddhism, but what I know him best for is his constant exposure of the power and absurdities of men from a gender perspective. He has free-thinking views on men, sex and gender and is not bound by any particular narrow viewpoint.

He writes almost daily on men and gender issues by posting the best, or worst, of what is written around the net. His range is wide and his opinions are equally wide. I know I can rely on him to reveal what others are saying and comment intelligently and personally. I read his blog constantly.

As an example of his wide range here are two examples of recent posts:

• BBC – Just who are men’s rights activists? He condemns the approach of Men’s Rights Activists saying, “These guys lack a clear sense of when it is appropriate to be strong and independent, and when it is best to be tender and loving.”
• Henry Rollins: Education Will Restore A Vigorous Democracy A piece about the great punk singer who has used his anger to speak up for education, saying, “It’s not at all surprising then to hear Rollins say the education is the key to having a real and vigorous democracy . . . and to reducing prison populations, which are mostly men.”

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Alex Blackwell is a very special man who was on the brink of divorce several years ago. As he says on the site, “I needed to make a few changes within myself before my life could change. Knowing creating positive change was necessary, I started down the path of learning how to appreciate exactly what I have.”

He is still on that path and influencing many people on his journey. His central approach is love and simplicity focused around his wife and his family. His approach as a husband and a father is one we can all learn from.

• A Simple Path – To Celebrating The Ordinary This is a very personal piece that demonstrates his power, compassion and love. This is a must read for all men.
• How To Rise Up And Live Again “Often it’s when we hit bottom that we are given the best perspective to see how we can heal, rise up and live again.”

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Tyler is someone who hits the road running, he faces life and makes it do things for him. He is someone to shock us men out of our lethargy. Read him and start living.

“Better living through uncertainty is the aim. In order to become who we are destined to be, we must submit ourselves to the unknown. Life is best lived at its margins. It is at these edges that a new way of being, a new way of living, becomes possible.

“Advanced Riskology is not about finding the safest way to take a chance. This is not risk management. It’s risk appreciation. This site exists to say that there’s no way to know for sure that your crazy idea will work, and that’s exactly what makes it worth doing.

“This site is for anyone who believes that a fulfilled life is one never fully satisfied – anyone who refuses to accept what is and, instead, dreams of what could be.”

• The Bring Your Own Awesome Policy How to give yourself credit for the things your good at and build your own confidence. Then you can bring your own sense of being awesome to the awesome friends you need to surround yourself with.
• The Curse of Knowledge He proposes the one sentence solution to turn complexity into simplicity. This is priceless.

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This is my blog! But I had to have it here because providing a powerful blog for men to learn and grow by is what I do!

It is important for me that this reaches as many men as possible, helps as many men as possible. there is a great need today for men to step up with certainty and power, a great need for men to find their inner strength and take it out into the world with presence and compassion.

Male eXperience is designed to bring this learning to men on a wide front so that men find it acceptable and powerful. These two articles give an idea of approaches I take…

•  How To Be A Man – How To Be Present and Focused Most men don’t think they need to know how to be a man, They just carry on as if everything’s OK.  I talk to women in their 30’s and 40’s about men and the work I do, they usually say to ‘Where are the men, don’t they know how to be a man?’ So, men, here’s what you need to know and do to get off the couch, learn how to be a man and start making things hot…
• Emotional Abuse – I Still Want To Kick The Shit Out Of Him… This is a very personal piece about an experience of mine, many years ago. Through it I am seeking to help men bring back the courage, compassion and certainty into their lives. I want them to be able to find their courage as men, to find the certainty in themselves.

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MGTL is different from all the others and is a totally refreshing site, one that I love. It consists purely of short videos with no commentary. They are pieces from random men who give their advice to other men on the subject of love.

They are compelling videos that start you thinking about men and love. I don’t always agree with the opinions expressed but I do agree with the wide variety of them. It’s difficult to extract two as examples, but here goes…

• Rene, 32 “Understand that we can’t change people. We have to embrace each other for who we are.”
• Victor, 46 “As long as truth is in there, and your heart is in there, you’ll have true love at the end.”

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I met Jayson at a Men’s Conference he organised in Boulder. He is a powerful man dedicated to telling the truth. He believes that only through this can you honour your relationship with others. As a man this is especially true.

He teaches men about life and parenting and he teaches couples about love. He is worth listening to because he is at the raw edge of live, a place not many of us choose to live. We can learn so much from him if only we choose to listen.

• Transcending the ManBox He addresses the question, “What is going on with boys and men and why are they struggling so much”? For brave men who want to be in control of their life, the path will be to transcend the gender box and dismantle their conditioning. This is path to more and more personal choice and freedom.
• Healing The Gender Divide Jayson is inspired to bring men and women together with the intention to reconcile whatever stands in the way of us loving and accepting each other more fully. He concludes that when men and women lay down their arms and meet in a sacred space to speak truth and receive each other’s truth with deep respect and commitment to greater love, magic can, and does, happen.

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George claims not to be special – “I’m a regular guy, not too different from you. There’s only one difference: I might know a few things you don’t. My life is dedicated to fulfilling my dreams, and one of those dreams is making a difference for other people. From where I’m standing, nothing is impossible. I want you to know what it’s like to be loved, admired, successful and, most importantly, capable of doing anything you want.”

He gives some sound advice for men from his personal perspective.

• How To Be The Man In Your Relationship Being a man in your relationship means being strong. It’s a lot like dancing: no matter how great a woman is, it won’t work unless the man can lead.
• The People Around You Don’t Know What They’re Doing Most people don’t know what they want to do, where they want to eat or how they feel about things. Instead, they let mass media and the strong leaders in their lives decide for them. As a man, you have the power and responsibility to be one of those leaders. Whether you want to help others or dominate them, this is an ability you naturally possess – and it’s easier to exercise than you think.

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Jason only recently started this blog for men, and he is making a great job of it. It’s powerfully designed and gives some powerful advice. He is a religious man but he doesn’t let that get in the way of his writing.

He looks at a man’s life from a number of different perspectives; leader, mate, provider, coach, warrior, healer, producer, gentlemen and pastor. This puts men right at the forefront of being fathers and husbands, something that is much needed today.

• How Disappointment Can Be A Good Thing The question is whether we will let these disappointments drive us forward or derail us off-track. He concludes by saying, “If you’ve faced a disappointment, let me encourage you to keep moving forward. Accept responsibility, learn from it, and press on. What you perceive as a failure, mistake, or misfortune can actually become the catalyst for what’s ahead.”
• If You’re Going To Change Something… Whenever you decide to do anything of significance, you are going to create change. When you do it you should rely on your base, they are the early adopters, the believers, and the agents for change.  There’s something in your story that resonates with theirs remember that.

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I met Sean in Bangkok at a meetup organised by Chris Guillebeau (The Art of Non-Conformity). He was living there at the time being location independent. I love the idea of working where it pleases you, and creating a business at the same time. Sean is one one of the few people who actually does it. It’s important for men to learn from him and see how he achieves freedom.

The site is about building a business you can run from anywhere on Earth and living a life worth writing about. This is something I aim to do in my life and something IO totally support.

• The (brutally honest) guide to figuring out if you’re ready to become a lifestyle entrepreneur Everyone has thought about it at some point or another.  You know, that dream where you’re sitting on the beach in Bali, sipping your pina colada while stacks of money roll in “passively”. Even if that doesn’t represent what your daily life would look like as an entrepreneur, you want to know that you can make that happen should you so choose.
• Location 180: A quick start guide Essentially this site is all about the marriage between travel, entrepreneurship, and doing cool stuff in life.  Sean has found entrepreneurship to be the absolute best way to live a fulfilling life, and tries and help others experience that as well.

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Scott recently re-launched his site and had enormous success doing so. His premise is that we should live our own legend and that we all have it in us to do that.

Imagine for a moment a world where everyone did work that lit them on fire. What would that look like? How would those around you start to treat others as a result of how you treated them? One ripple creates another. When enough ripples intersect, you have a revolution.

He says, “I believe that the world would be an altogether different place if we all did work that actually mattered to us. It would literally change the world.”

• How to Start Anything: The Beginner’s Manifesto Starting is what sets so many dreams from reality. So many ideas from actually breathing life and helping people in a way on they can. You either start or you don’t. This is how to do it.
• The Creator’s Manifesto Passionate work comes down to one action: creating things. To build things using your talents, strengths, passions and interests, to help the world in some way is the key. I know this because that’s what I’ve spent my life doing.

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