No, not by keeping it in the fridge, you want it hot not cold!
I was talking about my relationship to a female friend, talking about men in general and how they just don’t step up. She loved what I had to tell her, “I am in awe of the radiance of your relationship”, she said, but she still did not understand how to keep an exciting relationship at its initial level over time.
My answer was simple, “You need to start afresh every day. Treat every day as if it was the start of the relationship”. “But how do you do that?” she said.
That, of course, is where the simplicity ends. The eXperience starts before the relationship does and it starts with the man and his presence. Male eXperience is not intended to be a relationship or dating site but when talking about showing up as a man it becomes impossible to leave relationships out of the equation.
So here is a quick, 10 step, run-down, for men, on how to get it going and keep it fresh.
1. Treat your partner as a goddess.
Because she is, otherwise why would you love her? If you don’t know how to do this then just think of everything you do as a form of worship. Make all you rinteractions sacred, you’ll soon get the message from her responses.
2. Be fully present.
When you are with her let everything else go, she is the most important part of your world. Focus on her and show that you can take anything she does without flinching.
3. Don’t make assumptions.
If in doubt, ask. You will often be in doubt, because you won’t understand what is going on in her head. That’s OK as long as you don’t assume you know what’s going on and get it completely wrong. To her that shows you haven’t been listening.
4. Understand the power of polarity.
Relationships thrive on polarity. The polarity of a masculine man in his core and a feminine woman in her core is electrifying. Keep the polarity at the forefront of the relationship and do all you can to encourage it. Believe me you will enjoy it.
5. Look your best.
Act as you did when you were first going out. Look at how you dress, how you present yourself. She wants you to behave as you did in the beginning, she wants you to keep the excitement there. Don’t become a slob!
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Graham, that’s a great list.
I’m wondering if you can clarify for me: “The best is if you make the decision to do what she wants without appearing to.”
Jeff, thanks.
What I am getting at is the power to make the woman feel great, without diminishing yourself, because you are doing what she wants but it’s because you want to do it as well. OK, that seems a bit convoluted but the essence is that a woman loves you to be a man and make the decisions, but she also would love to do what she wants. You square that circle and both feel great. Both know the truth but both are making the other person feel great, that’s the key, it’s about the other person.
I hope that makes sense.
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I wish I knew these 10 steps years ago, thank you Graham priceless.
keep up the good work.
Hi Kerry, thanks for that. Just keep using them and your life will be transformed. Keep reading and commenting…
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