No, they don’t necessarily have to be gendered. It’s the polarity in the relationship that’s important. So there is no reason why a woman shouldn’t follow the rules I have set out, as long as the man doesn’t as well. This is very important in same sex relationships where still needs to be a spark of energy.

The reason I connect it to gender, as I do, is that this is the majority situation. This affects many, many men who don’t understand how to create polarity.

Thanks for your comment, you pose a very interesting question. For me these rules are specifically related to being a man and connect with certain characteristics which I see as masculine. I don’t see masculinity and femininity as opposites but certainly as different. So it doesn’t mean that these rules don’t apply nor does it mean that they would be opposite, just different.

For me, men and women are different, and that is something to celebrate. Great relationships come about through polarity, not equality. This does not suggest one is better than the other, just that the electricity created by a polarity of energies is what makes relationships exciting. Many men miss this and women notice the lack of fire. I have women saying to me often, “Where are all the men?” They feel the lack of men who understand the concept of polarity.

I could suggest 4 rules for women, maybe I will look at this…

Graham

I’m not attacking your post at all, I’m just genuinely curious what your thoughts are on this. My personal belief is that gender is mostly socially constructed, and that traits should not be considered “masculine” or “feminine”, but that people should be free to be whoever they want to be without judgment.