Rape is generally about control not sex. It is about domination, usually by men of women, although it happens in other combinations as well. In my view it is not so much a gender issue as a human issue. It is about sad people who cannot see how to live decent lives and take that out on others.
What is tragic, though, is how it blights the lives of those involved. Often the lives of the victims are shattered with devastating ripple effects. The lives of the perpetuators are affected as well, often for the rest of their lives. Victims can become perpetuators, and so on.
But I am getting ahead of myself.
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Some years ago my son started a tradition of giving me a journal every year. The first one he gave me had a quote at the front, that he had written, from Henry Rollins. It was my first introduction to this former punk musician, from my punk musician son. The quote said,
“A lot of people spend their lives never getting to know their potential. They show up for work, despise their boss and the way they have to live but lack the guts to walk out the door and never come back. In the end they get what’s coming to them.”
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